As they consider future living options, retirees are eager to maintain independence
and responsibility for their wellbeing. When they turn to their children for support and advice it may be the first time they’ve sought their input on such an important decision.
Some adult children see this as an invitation to assume control, which can conflict sharply with the adult’s goal of independence. Taking away control typically leads to conflict, and for good reason. In most cases, decisions about how and where older parents will live –and the consequences of those decisions – should reside with them. Adult children can assist in many ways without taking over.